12 Destructive Habits That Are Keeping You Stuck– As individuals we all have habits. Some of them are good habits and others are not good at all! In fact, the habits that you have help to shape the life that you are living right now. Show me a successful person, and I will show you a person who has many more positive habits than not. On the flip side, show me a person who is not successful and is barely getting by, and I will show you a person that has more bad habits than good ones.
Understand that it is these bad habits that you have that is keeping you stuck and stagnant in your personal, professional, business, relationships, and just about every other part of your life. If you want to improve on any one of these pillars, it will require you to STOP keeping yourself stuck in your bad habits.
Below are 12 Destructive Habits That Are Keeping You Stuck! How many of these habits do you have?
1. You don't believe in yourself
Believing in yourself is basically the same as your self-esteem. If you want to be successful in anything, you must first believe in you- that you are capable and good enough! Read books that will help you to build up your self-esteem!
2. You don't own your unique self
Be YOU! There is only one of you and nobody the same. Let your true self shine through! You will be happier for it and you will also attract the right people into your life that were meant to be a part of it!
3. You compare yourself to others
Don't do it! You will drive yourself mad trying to be someone else that you are not. Every single one of us has a different path to success. Stop trying to look at others as a benchmark for where you should be. Just be yourself and continue to strive to become a better person, and everything else will take care of itself.
4. You care too much what other people think
Only you know what is best for you and your family. Forget what other people think about you or your decisions. My motto is if they are not paying my bills, I am not worried about what they think. Follow your heart and live with no regrets! Caring what others think about you will make you very unhappy and leave you feeling paralyzed because you have to gain approval from others before you can do anything- STOP!
5. You surround yourself with negativity
People will either bring you up or they will bring you down. There are toxic people and non-toxic, supportive people. Surround yourself with the latter. How can you expect to live a positive, fulfilling life if you are constantly battling negative. Sometimes just like in Facebook, you need to “unlike” people! Unlike the negative people in your life and watch the sun start to shine through the clouds in your life!
6. You indulge in pessimism
Ahhh, the proverbial glass half full or half empty! Well which is it? Your answer will reveal if you need to work on this!
7. You criticize yourself relentlessly
I am my number one critic, and I assume you are your number one critic as well. Self criticism is good for you to a point because it helps us stand back and evaluate ourselves. We want to be the best we can be, right? However, if all you ever do is beat yourself up, you are not putting yourself in a position to become the best you can be. All of the negative self-talk will actually convince your subconscious mind to do exactly what you tell it. Are you telling your subconscious mind to do good things or bad things? Are you telling yourself that you are awesome or an idiot? The choice is yours!
8. You don't trust yourself
So we have all made mistakes. I have made many more than I have time to share!! Trust yourself and your abilities. You can make the right move if you just trust your heart and the little voice on your shoulder telling you the positive move to make. It goes back to your self-image and self-esteem. Work on them and you will trust yourself more.
9. You don't let yourself speak up
Don't be afraid to speak up or stand up for yourself. If you believe in something strongly or have an opinion that can help a situation, speak up. If you don't speak up, you will never be heard. You have great points and ideas that people can learn from or take into consideration. Speak up and live out loud!!
10. You're no longer curious
Curiosity is the basis of learning. Why do babies learn so quickly? They learn quickly because they are curious. Curiosity is what all great inventors had, they just continued to follow through on their curiosity. You can not expect to move forward from where you are if you are not curious or inquisitive about the world around you. Look into things on a deeper level and you will learn so much! Stay curious!
11. You dismiss compliments
I had to work on my wife with this. When someone would compliment her, she would reply with a negative comment about herself. Even if you are embarrassed when someone compliments you, just say “thank you!” When you dismiss compliments, you are actually dismissing the person who gave you the compliment. Don't make them feel bad for complimenting you. Heck, you should feel great that someone had something nice to say about you. The world craves people to accept and value them. That is what a compliment is doing; it says that, “You are a good person with value and I am pointing that out to you!” Never again dismiss a compliment 🙂
12. You limit yourself
One of my dear mentors asked me a question when I was a new Entrepreneur. He said, “What would you attempt if you knew that you could NOT fail?” We limit ourselves in our thinking. You can do anything you put your mind to. Like the great Napoleon Hill said, “what ever the mind can conceive, and believe, the mind can achieve!” Never forget that, and don't limit yourself.
So after reading this, how many of these 12 Destructive Habits That Are Keeping You Stuck do you have? Don't try to fix all of them at once. Take 1 or 2 at a time and work on them. Once you have turned the bad habit into a good habit, move on to the next.
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To Your Success,
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